Monday, January 24, 2011
Sharma... Sticking to your dream
3:05 - 3:36
"(...) Every dream starts small. But you want to start and move it forward, each every day. And when everybody laugh on you and criticize you, pain now hit to them. Keep on moving you dream forward. Because there is something magical about sticking to your dream longer than any around you, if you have the right to stick at your dream (...)"
Monday, January 17, 2011
Love your closers
In his beautiful article, A Gift for My Daughter, Harry Browne, American libertarian writer and politician, writes a beautiful note to his daughter in which he gives her a gift that would last a life-time. The timeless gift he gave to her is also a gift of indispensible learning and wisdom for all great leaders.
“It’s Christmas and I have the usual problem of deciding what to give you. I know you might enjoy many things — books, games, clothes. But I’m very selfish. I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a few months or years. I want to give you a gift that might remind you of me every Christmas. If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it. The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.
Significance - How could such a simple statement be important? It may not seem so, but understanding it can bless your entire life. No one owes you anything. It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel. When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be. It means no one has to love you.
If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.
When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything. No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty.
Find out what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you. No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don’t owe them anything either.
Living Your Life - No one owes you anything. You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them. Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem. Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts. If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.
My Experience - A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out — physically and emotionally — trying to collect them. No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence.
And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do. That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers.
It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he/she thinks, what he/she believes to be important, what he/she wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want. And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone. And I can save the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in common. It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has taken me years to learn. But maybe if you re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year. I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that can set you free: no one owes you anything.”
Harry Browne, December 25, 1966
What are the incredible breakthrough insights and changes that you can find in your life by realizing that no one owes you anything?
You are freed of the expectations that others owe us something.
You recognize your own independence and responsibility to be all that you can possibly be.
You learn that in your relationships with others, some things must be earned through your own actions, behaviors and attitudes, and through your understanding of the other person's needs and desires.
You learn that you find fulfillment in relationships in which common interests are shared, perspectives and goals.
You find that in being all you can be, the gifts that you give to others will be returned with grateful appreciation and recognition.
You learn to realize that in some relationships, for whatever reason, they will not work and you will need to walk away because you, too, do not owe anything to another.
This is a magnificent gift Browne has shared. Remember the counsel he gave to his daughter: to re-read this gift that "the meaning will become a little clearer every year.” May you find great joy in your understanding that "no one owes you anything."
Have all of you a beautiful day and a fantastic week!!!
“It’s Christmas and I have the usual problem of deciding what to give you. I know you might enjoy many things — books, games, clothes. But I’m very selfish. I want to give you something that will stay with you for more than a few months or years. I want to give you a gift that might remind you of me every Christmas. If I could give you just one thing, I’d want it to be a simple truth that took me many years to learn. If you learn it now, it may enrich your life in hundreds of ways. And it may prevent you from facing many problems that have hurt people who have never learned it. The truth is simply this: No one owes you anything.
Significance - How could such a simple statement be important? It may not seem so, but understanding it can bless your entire life. No one owes you anything. It means that no one else is living for you, my child. Because no one is you. Each person is living for himself; his own happiness is all he can ever personally feel. When you realize that no one owes you happiness or anything else, you’ll be freed from expecting what isn’t likely to be. It means no one has to love you.
If someone loves you, it’s because there’s something special about you that gives him happiness. Find out what that something special is and try to make it stronger in you, so that you’ll be loved even more.
When people do things for you, it’s because they want to — because you, in some way, give them something meaningful that makes them want to please you, not because anyone owes you anything. No one has to like you. If your friends want to be with you, it’s not out of duty.
Find out what makes others happy so they’ll want to be near you. No one has to respect you. Some people may even be unkind to you. But once you realize that people don’t have to be good to you, and may not be good to you, you’ll learn to avoid those who would harm you. For you don’t owe them anything either.
Living Your Life - No one owes you anything. You owe it to yourself to be the best person possible. Because if you are, others will want to be with you, want to provide you with the things you want in exchange for what you’re giving to them. Some people will choose not to be with you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. When that happens, look elsewhere for the relationships you want. Don’t make someone else’s problem your problem. Once you learn that you must earn the love and respect of others, you’ll never expect the impossible and you won’t be disappointed. Others don’t have to share their property with you, nor their feelings or thoughts. If they do, it’s because you’ve earned these things. And you have every reason to be proud of the love you receive, your friends’ respect, the property you’ve earned. But don’t ever take them for granted. If you do, you could lose them. They’re not yours by right; you must always earn them.
My Experience - A great burden was lifted from my shoulders the day I realized that no one owes me anything. For so long as I’d thought there were things I was entitled to, I’d been wearing myself out — physically and emotionally — trying to collect them. No one owes me moral conduct, respect, friendship, love, courtesy, or intelligence.
And once I recognized that, all my relationships became far more satisfying. I’ve focused on being with people who want to do the things I want them to do. That understanding has served me well with friends, business associates, lovers, sales prospects, and strangers.
It constantly reminds me that I can get what I want only if I can enter the other person’s world. I must try to understand how he/she thinks, what he/she believes to be important, what he/she wants. Only then can I appeal to someone in ways that will bring me what I want. And only then can I tell whether I really want to be involved with someone. And I can save the important relationships for those with whom I have the most in common. It’s not easy to sum up in a few words what has taken me years to learn. But maybe if you re-read this gift each Christmas, the meaning will become a little clearer every year. I hope so, for I want more than anything else for you to understand this simple truth that can set you free: no one owes you anything.”
Harry Browne, December 25, 1966
What are the incredible breakthrough insights and changes that you can find in your life by realizing that no one owes you anything?
You are freed of the expectations that others owe us something.
You recognize your own independence and responsibility to be all that you can possibly be.
You learn that in your relationships with others, some things must be earned through your own actions, behaviors and attitudes, and through your understanding of the other person's needs and desires.
You learn that you find fulfillment in relationships in which common interests are shared, perspectives and goals.
You find that in being all you can be, the gifts that you give to others will be returned with grateful appreciation and recognition.
You learn to realize that in some relationships, for whatever reason, they will not work and you will need to walk away because you, too, do not owe anything to another.
This is a magnificent gift Browne has shared. Remember the counsel he gave to his daughter: to re-read this gift that "the meaning will become a little clearer every year.” May you find great joy in your understanding that "no one owes you anything."
Have all of you a beautiful day and a fantastic week!!!
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Walking at the sun
Walking in the sun
I am walking in the sun. I am a artist walking in the early sun. Walking and creating as living before my time or behind it to renew the essence of the environment around me.
I am walking in the sun. I am a diplomat walking in the early sun. Walking and playing chess politely as who always remind your birthday but will make you never remind your age.
I am walking in the sun. I am with you walking in early the sun. So, don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me ... and then...
Then, we are walking in the sun. We got stronger walking in the sun. Walking and laughing at the early morning relaxed sun as who are sure that will find one day the best sunset view ever.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Largest Day of my Life... (2/5)
How come your luggage change your day?
This post is the answer.. (2nd post in 3 posts)
"Ahhhhhhhhhhh". Luggage was lost in the middle of the Airport in Brussels.
First of all, this was a real day. My best and amazed incredible day, I have to say. Until now, definitely the day which I had faced more challenges at the same time. Everything because a fail. Everything because a luggage...
in Brussels, Belgium...
As the explained in the 1/3 published, with 20 euros, mobile off, ID card, VISA card, clothes luggage, without flight tickets and passport how could I arrive to Turkey from Belgium with almost 1 hour to get the flight? If I wanted to come back, how could I return to Paris? Waaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
There I was with Amandine Bancel from my team without my luggage. I was desperate, with my hands on my head. Scream just come in consequence, without knowing what to do. Taxi driver has left with the luggage and I was with... almost nothing, just the clothes bag.
So... think, think... reminding my chess strategy:
1st) last move from the other person - Run out from the taxi as taxi driver.
2nd) what is the intention of the other person - As Taxi driver, go to the TAXI ARRIVALS PLACE???????
Just said to Amandine to go to Air Italia, informing what happened with me, and told her that I will be on the check in 10 minutes. Then I run, almost all I could with my clothes luggage. With all my strength to see if I could see the Taxi Driver on the Arrivals place at the Airport.
Nothing.
No Tunisian guy with musctahe, neither Taxi with my luggage. Ask the taxi drivers, if they knew him, anything could help... One, nice one, one taxi driver told me: "hey man, what's up?".... "WHAT A FUCK MAN, I will call the lost and found from the central place".
He did several calls, to different numbers, different places. Noted everything on a post it with little bit of ketchup from his weird breakfast and told me: "dude, is like that. the colours of the taximeter was green or red?" I answered red. "MANNNNNNNN HE IS ILEGAL. Only the legal ones have the green ones. Shit! You screwed!".
I got the paper, hug this cool guy and run to the police Station.
Desperate again, I came there directly to the police, explained everything and ask for help... My desperation was delivered to the policeman. Poor man, he got nervous without knowing if could calm me down or run to the phone. Nicely he told me: "Hum, let me see. Francisco, no worry we will try to get your luggage, do you want to regist what you lost?"
Then I did the list of things, and more details I was providing, more serious was the policeman with me. 40 minutes around a crazy paper just to have in my hands, proving what I lost. What I couldn't get it. At the end, I asked him the number and address of the Portuguese Ambassy. I needed to go there to find a solution for my passport... I needed to be there.
8am - Run to the check in.
At the check in, Amandine was almost leaving. Her flight was waiting for her
She didn't want to leave. I said: "Amandine, no worry, I will be there." I still remember today her incapacity eyes once she left. In my mind was clearly that I "WILL BE THERE" and "IT WILL BE TODAY".
After 3 months of pushing hard to be at this AIESEC International Congress, I just needed to be there. Said goodbye to Amandine and then talked with the A.Italia airlines guy.
Actually this italian was not so gUy at all, he looked more as gAy, than other thing. I remember as today, his screams when he saw me: "YOU ARE THE GUY WHO LOST THE LUGGAGE??".. "OHHHHH AHHHH OHHHH I will do my best. I will do my best."Francisco, I will help you. Don't worry, I will help you. Here your registration. I have cancelled your current flight, but no problem, as soon you have your documents you can take the flight. Here the registration and here my cellphone, please contact me as soon you have the documents back. Good luck, run to get it. GOOOD LUUUUUCK"
I got the papers and then I run.
Wait.
Wait.
But run to????
Look for signs. Then I saw "Airport Lost and Found", I went there, nothing.
The fat woman was more calm than ever, neither a call to police. I just said myself "what a BITCH". Whatever, I run out of the airport to the Radison (i think) Hotel in front of it as recommended from the taxi driver.
Well.. Guess what? Nothing. BITCH!
Then, resigned, I went to the ATM. Put my VISA card to get the money to go to Portuguese Ambassy. GUESS WHAT? VISA DIDNT WORK!!!!
No money??!!! Tried all ATM's and NOTHING!!!!!
So, with 20 euros, mobile off, ID card, VISA card, huge clothes luggage on my back, without flight tickets and passport how could I arrive to Turkey from Belgium?
BAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
This post is the answer.. (2nd post in 3 posts)
"Ahhhhhhhhhhh". Luggage was lost in the middle of the Airport in Brussels.
First of all, this was a real day. My best and amazed incredible day, I have to say. Until now, definitely the day which I had faced more challenges at the same time. Everything because a fail. Everything because a luggage...
in Brussels, Belgium...
As the explained in the 1/3 published, with 20 euros, mobile off, ID card, VISA card, clothes luggage, without flight tickets and passport how could I arrive to Turkey from Belgium with almost 1 hour to get the flight? If I wanted to come back, how could I return to Paris? Waaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
There I was with Amandine Bancel from my team without my luggage. I was desperate, with my hands on my head. Scream just come in consequence, without knowing what to do. Taxi driver has left with the luggage and I was with... almost nothing, just the clothes bag.
So... think, think... reminding my chess strategy:
1st) last move from the other person - Run out from the taxi as taxi driver.
2nd) what is the intention of the other person - As Taxi driver, go to the TAXI ARRIVALS PLACE???????
Just said to Amandine to go to Air Italia, informing what happened with me, and told her that I will be on the check in 10 minutes. Then I run, almost all I could with my clothes luggage. With all my strength to see if I could see the Taxi Driver on the Arrivals place at the Airport.
Nothing.
No Tunisian guy with musctahe, neither Taxi with my luggage. Ask the taxi drivers, if they knew him, anything could help... One, nice one, one taxi driver told me: "hey man, what's up?".... "WHAT A FUCK MAN, I will call the lost and found from the central place".
He did several calls, to different numbers, different places. Noted everything on a post it with little bit of ketchup from his weird breakfast and told me: "dude, is like that. the colours of the taximeter was green or red?" I answered red. "MANNNNNNNN HE IS ILEGAL. Only the legal ones have the green ones. Shit! You screwed!".
I got the paper, hug this cool guy and run to the police Station.
Desperate again, I came there directly to the police, explained everything and ask for help... My desperation was delivered to the policeman. Poor man, he got nervous without knowing if could calm me down or run to the phone. Nicely he told me: "Hum, let me see. Francisco, no worry we will try to get your luggage, do you want to regist what you lost?"
Then I did the list of things, and more details I was providing, more serious was the policeman with me. 40 minutes around a crazy paper just to have in my hands, proving what I lost. What I couldn't get it. At the end, I asked him the number and address of the Portuguese Ambassy. I needed to go there to find a solution for my passport... I needed to be there.
8am - Run to the check in.
At the check in, Amandine was almost leaving. Her flight was waiting for her
She didn't want to leave. I said: "Amandine, no worry, I will be there." I still remember today her incapacity eyes once she left. In my mind was clearly that I "WILL BE THERE" and "IT WILL BE TODAY".
After 3 months of pushing hard to be at this AIESEC International Congress, I just needed to be there. Said goodbye to Amandine and then talked with the A.Italia airlines guy.
Actually this italian was not so gUy at all, he looked more as gAy, than other thing. I remember as today, his screams when he saw me: "YOU ARE THE GUY WHO LOST THE LUGGAGE??".. "OHHHHH AHHHH OHHHH I will do my best. I will do my best."Francisco, I will help you. Don't worry, I will help you. Here your registration. I have cancelled your current flight, but no problem, as soon you have your documents you can take the flight. Here the registration and here my cellphone, please contact me as soon you have the documents back. Good luck, run to get it. GOOOD LUUUUUCK"
I got the papers and then I run.
Wait.
Wait.
But run to????
Look for signs. Then I saw "Airport Lost and Found", I went there, nothing.
The fat woman was more calm than ever, neither a call to police. I just said myself "what a BITCH". Whatever, I run out of the airport to the Radison (i think) Hotel in front of it as recommended from the taxi driver.
Well.. Guess what? Nothing. BITCH!
Then, resigned, I went to the ATM. Put my VISA card to get the money to go to Portuguese Ambassy. GUESS WHAT? VISA DIDNT WORK!!!!
No money??!!! Tried all ATM's and NOTHING!!!!!
So, with 20 euros, mobile off, ID card, VISA card, huge clothes luggage on my back, without flight tickets and passport how could I arrive to Turkey from Belgium?
BAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Friday, January 7, 2011
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Monday, January 3, 2011
I'm easy like Sunday Morning
Know it sounds funny
But, I just can't stand the pain
Girl, I'm leaving you tomorrow
Seems to me girl
You know I've done all I can
You see I begged, stole, and I borrowed! (yeah)
Ooh that's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning
That's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning!
Why in the world would anybody put chains on me?
I've paid my dues to make it
Everybody wants me to be
What they want me to be
I'm not happy when I try to fake it! no!
Ooh that's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning
That's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning!
I wanna be high, so high
I wanna be free to know
The things I do are right
I wanna be free
Just me! Whoa, oh! Babe!
That's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning, yeah
That's why I'm easy
I'm easy like Sunday morning, whoa
'Cause I'm easy
Easy like Sunday morning, yeah
'Cause I'm easy
Easy like Sunday morning
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